I am wondering whether or not to share this with you.
After all, the death of a loved one, planning a funeral service in the midst of grief and the task of writing obituaries are serious, sad and stressful matters.
Nonetheless, levity is sometimes a good thing so please read the following obituary for a gentleman named John E. Holden and share with me in the comment section at the end of this post as to whether or not you cracked a smile, possibly giggled, or let out peels of laughter…I will tell you that my reaction was a combination of all three.
Honestly, after having helped write and proofread what seemed like a thousand times the obituary for my mom seven years ago, I can tell you now that I wished we could reprint one similar to John Holden’s. Why? Because it is funny and at the same time it is very personal. I wish I had met John Holden because I think we could have been good friends and shared some laughs together.
My mom, Nonnie, had a wicked sense of humor. She often dissolved into what we all described fondly as a “wee spell” complete with tears running down her cheeks as she tried in broken sentences and in loud bursts of laughter to tell us what she thought was so funny. Invariably, we all dissolved in outright laughter and tears just watching her. Nonnie’s laughter and humor was contagious.
Therefore, she would have been a great candidate for a “funny”, lighthearted obituary to close out her life story. We were not, however, prepared for her death so a serious, factual obituary was what was written. And, we wanted to get the facts right.
With a snicker, Nonnie had a great penchant for asking me why we seemed to always choose as ”the grandparents gifts” to give our children “toys that will kill them”. No matter. She accepted her grandchildren’s needs for adventure but she never wanted to witness any injuries that might occur as a result of her gift! Nonnie and Boo accepted that fact that while scooters, skateboards, roller blades and surfboards could be considered dangerous toys, her grandchildren always appreciated receiving their “killer toys”.
This cartoon is for mom and would have been a perfect addition to a funny obituary in her honor.
What emotional response do you want from your obituary?
What stories would you choose to include?
What interesting facts do you want others to know about you?
How do you want to be remembered?
If you take time to write your own obituary, you will have control over your life’s final message in the end.